Love, a language? Oh, I am most definitely not fluent.
I took the love language quiz again…I only remembered half-way. I needed the full deets on my inner psyche. It’s free! You just have to create short profile.
It’s been pretty popular in years past and become a bit of a cliche but….In case you don’t know what a “love language” is, here goes: Your love language is the way someone needs to communicate with you in order for you to feel connected and ultimately loved. I’m sure there’s someone in your life that just flummoxes you. You know, like you just don’t know what really makes them happy. You should take the quiz for yourself and then get them to take it. This is not just for romantic relationships; you can use the language results for children, parents, friends, co-workers, etc.
This is not to say you need to make someone else happy all the time by showering them with gifts (if they’re like me…). I just think it’s a great tool to understand why someone did not respond the way you assumed they would to your actions and to maybe increase your connections.
Especially with the holidays happening like tomorrow, it’s something that might help you have a smoother time conversing with relatives…hah! Hey, you never know. I found an interesting post about using it romantically if that’s what you’re looking for.
||Words of Affirmation
||Acts of Service
It’s insanely valid for me. I know how much I appreciate getting a little note or present because it’s a physical sign that someone cared and was thinking about me. It’s not about the actual material thing I receive. I’m 100% sure this is why I love giving presents to everyone around me! I love it so much that I just want to share that good feeling it gives me.
Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures. Gifts are heartfelt symbols to you of someone else’s love and affection for you.
Words of Affirmation
Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important— hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten. You thrive on hearing kind and encouraging words that build you up.
In Quality Time, nothing says “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes you feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed activities, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful. Whether itʼs spending uninterrupted time talking with someone else or doing activities together, you deepen your connection with others through sharing time.
A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, and thoughtful touches on the arm—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive. Appropriate and timely touches communicate warmth, safety, and love to you.
Acts of Service
Can helping with homework really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter. When others serve you out of love (and not obligation), you feel truly valued and loved.
I’d absolutely love to hear if you take the quiz and agree with the results!